Wednesday, December 22, 2010
IT couples split over trivial issues: Lawyers
Dec 22, 2010
Till death do us part” is no longer valid for couples of the current generation. Rather, the bold, economically independent couples of the 21st century are opting for “trial and error” marriages that often see them in court in no time.
Often their brief to their lawyers goes like this: “We are paying your fees. Please don’t try to counsel us. Instead hasten our divorce process so that we can start life anew.”
Family court advocates say that’s the attitude of couples aged between mid-20s and early 30s, more than 60 per cent of whom work in the IT sector. These new age couples aren’t prepared to spare a little time for the marriage to work out.
Economic liberation of women is also being misused as an indirect reason for divorce. Family court advocate, Ms Anita Shalabh Jain, says, “Couples aren’t marrying to be together forever these days. They are ready to come out of wedlock even if the issues are trivial and easily resolvable. Ironically, economic independence of women gives them this ‘don’t care attitude.’ At the same time, the girl’s parents aren’t keen on the patch-up because it becomes an issue of ego and self-respect for all parties.”
Lawyers also blame the current corporate culture marked by hectic and indefinite work hours, late night parties, staying away from home for long periods or remaining hooked to the office phone and laptop even at home and so on. And when the husband is a government employee, ego issues crop up more prominently, says as a senior advocate of Secunderabad family court, “The wife expects her husband to do all the household chores and take care of children if any because she is earning more than her spouse. The husband also suffers from an inferiority complex. However, instead of comparing their job-related lifestyles, the couple fails to understand that a government job is more secure in many ways.”
Interestingly, most couples also seek divorce on grounds of non-consummation of marriage referring to impotency.
Posted by Blogaholic at 12/22/2010 07:50:00 AM